Gotcha Day!

For those who have adopted, or have been adopted, they know these children have two special days … a birthday and a “Gotcha Day”. A Gotcha Day is the day an adopted child enters his or her adoptive family. Today is my oldest sons “Gotcha Day”.

Six years ago today my wife and I met this handsome little man! This meeting was an answer to a prayer. Nearly fifteen years of trying a myriad of different things and finally a Social Worker, with angel wings in tow, placed him in our arms, trusting us to raise him the best we could!

Getting to that point was quite the challenge. There were background checks, getting matched, working with Immigration for citizenship, working with the State Department for Noah’s Visa, working with the Chinese Consulate for our Visas, working with the Chinese for finalizing the adoption, working with a travel agency for arrangements, and lastly, working with a lawyer in the US to complete his adoption with an American birth certificate.

But the day we finally met was filled with a lot of emotion … and one little man who was confused, scared, and likely the only one who had no say to what was going on! This picture to the left was the last thing we tried to do that day … go get dinner … and as you can imagine, this 21 month old kid was about to tap out! Our dinner plans quickly changed to a version of room service that involved the most interesting version my wife and I ever had!

But when all was complete, we were able to bring him home. While there have been challenges along the way, Aimee and I have been blessed to be part of his life and have him as part of ours.

Noah you beautiful and amazing little man, please never forget how much we love you and how proud we are of you! We hope you have an amazing Gotcha Day! With love, Mom and Dad.

The Move

The summer job I worked during my college years was that of a laborer with a local moving company.  There were more than a few long days loading and unloading trucks, most of these involved household goods belonging to families as they transitioned throughout the National Capital Region.

While it was hard work, and nearly 30 years ago, I still think back to a simpler time and laugh at some of the experiences that occurred.

A normal day consisted of a “show time” at 6:00 AM, the dispatcher providing our assignments for the day soon afterward, and generally heading down the road by 6:30. Days would generally continue to late in the afternoon, with some lasting well into the evening.

I recall one morning the dispatcher had pulled three of us aside about 6:15 and to informed us about our task.  We would be moving a woman and her two children from one apartment to another with the two separated by a mile or two. 

It was to be a fairly simple move, but there was a catch. 

Even though the family lived just a couple of miles from our office, we were under NO circumstances to pull into the parking lot before 8:00 and arrive no later than 8:15.  The move needed to be complete, paperwork included, no later than 4:00.  And lastly, we were not to ask any questions as to why they were moving.  If the lady didn’t provide the reason at any point, the dispatcher would let us know the next time we crossed paths.

The dispatcher knew to mention this last detail, mainly because folks would generally bring it up as part of a casual conversation. But with a statement like that, we were more than curious, but we followed orders, especially since he swore to fill us in at some point afterward. 

We pulled into the complex a couple minutes after 8:00 and found the young lady waiting in front of her building.  After exchanging pleasantries, we confirmed our task with one added stipulation … there was one closet that had been tied closed that we were not to touch.  They were personal effects she wanted to take care of herself. This in itself was a normal request that many folks make, and those effects are usually something expensive or personal in nature … jewelry, old family photos, etc … so we didn’t think much of it.

The day proved to be fairly easy.  Both places were three bedroom apartments, both on the first floor, both had a fairly short walk, and since it was a one-day move we could leave non-breakables such as clothes right in their cabinets.  With the three of us working together on multiple occasions, we knew our habits, so things went just that much more smoothly.

By the time the move was complete, with paperwork was signed, a check written, and the truck doors closed, our watches read just about 2:45.  With nothing broken or lost, and the fact we were done way ahead of schedule, this young lady began to praise our efforts.  Overall, it was a really good day.

Then, as we were about to go our separate ways, this young woman handed each of us a $20 bill and asked if we knew why she was moving.

We admitted that we didn’t, informed her of our dispatchers instructions, and confessed that we were curious. 

She then smiled and said, “I would like to thank you for helping me leave my husband.  The closet that was tied shut is filled with his belongings.  He’ll normally returns home from work shortly after 5:00, and I expect he’ll be a little surprised.”

The Rain, the Drunks, and a Tour Through Town

Credit for much of this story goes to the town of Manitou Springs, Colorado, where real events provided the basis for the story below.

It really was a dark and stormy night.   The entire summer of 1990 seemed to be extra harsh on the community.  Temps were higher than normal, a brush fire ignited at a local campground destroying nearly 30 square miles of forest in the National Park just to the west.  Torrential rains dumped throughout the region for most of August to the point that roads and basements alike were flooding regularly.  All were hoping for the rain would stop soon, and generally get a break, but reports were disheartening with forecasters predicting more of the same for another week or so.

The Chief of Police grew up in town and would join his staff as they made their rounds.  These days, he would use an old truck just big enough to get through the flooded Main Street.  Andrew Proctor had been on the force going on 15 years, and Chief for the past two, taking reins when Rick Kline finally retired.

Rick had grown up in the community, much like Andrew did, joined the Springfield’s police force soon after graduating high school, becoming Chief just before his 35th birthday and staying in that role another 25 years.  Rick’s roots in town ran deep.  Several of his forefathers helped found the community in the early 1800’s, with men working primarily in farming, poultry, and the lumber mill in the next town over.  The women tended to be teachers and homemakers, with the occasional secretary after their kids were grown.

It was hard to see Rick finally retire, but he seemed happy.  He had been a mentor to Andrew for from the time he was just a kid.  Andrew found himself in trouble quite a bit growing up, with Chief Kline pulling him out of more than a few sticky situations, a couple of which could have been dire if they had gone much further.

But Chief Kline saw potential in Andrew, took a liking to him, and helped when he could, stepping in as a surrogate when Andrew’s father passed away.  It was Chief Kline that eventually gave him a chance with the force, and from there, Andrew has continued to grow. He never imagined becoming Chief himself.  Andrew had been offered a position with the State Patrol about the time Chief Kline nominated him for the role but didn’t have the heart to take the State job when Chief Kline brought it up.

Andrew thought about that conversation with Chief Kline, and many others they had over the years.  Those conversations, along with many other experiences growing up and, on the force, prepared him for just about everything that came his way.  But this evening was different.  With everything that generally occurred during a storm … trees down, power out, the occasional accident, or stranded driver … this one was unique.  Nobody had ever called about a runaway casket now resting in the middle of Main Street.

A casket?  A casket!  Several drunks were leaving the bar off the north end of Main during the storm saw the casket come floating down Ruxton Ave.  They watched it go with the flow make a right on Main and continue for about a hundred yards before stopping in front of the ice cream shop.  Oddly, the funeral home wasn’t missing one.  The hospital’s morgue wasn’t missing any either.  So where did it come from?  It would take a little time, but Chief Proctor would eventually find out.

On the bright side, could you imagine what was going through the minds of those drunks was they watched the casket floating down the road?  The driver of the cab the drunks hailed saw it too.  Being the only one sober at the time, probably had the biggest laugh of all involved!

Once the coroner was involved, and the police finished their investigation, it was determined that the casket was occupied by the late Heather Smythe.  Heather was the daughter of Roger and Sara Smythe who moved to town in the late 1880’s.  The Smythe’s were fairly well off and quickly become pillars of the community.  Unfortunately, young Miss Crawford had been stricken with tuberculosis and was told she’d be lucky to see her 20th birthday. 

Heather was also quite pretty, outgoing, and had a talent for music, especially the piano.  So once the Smythe’s settled down, it didn’t take long for the young men to notice.  The young Miss Smythe loved the attention her male audience provided, but also realized her life was to be cut short, and politely turned away any potential long-term suitor.  She couldn’t imagine someone becoming a widower at a young age themselves. 

Well, except for one.  There was the young Jacob Brown, a handsome, talented, and suave young man in his own right, was so smitten with Miss Smythe that he couldn’t stay away and refused to take no for an answer.  After nearly a year of pursuit, Jacob convinced Heather to marry.  Unfortunately, that marriage would never occur.  In early August 1905, Miss Heather Smythe succumbed to her illness.  It was just a couple of weeks prior to the wedding. 

After her passing, those closest to her would recall how much she loved the view outside her bedroom window.  Her view of Red Mountain and the way the suns setting light was the most beautiful sight she had ever seen.  She hoped to be buried at the summit so she could watch the sun set forevermore.  And that is exactly what happened!

Jacob, along with several of his closest friends, her family, and Pastor in tow, carried Heather and her casket to the top of Red Mountain.  They proceeded to dig a grave and held a funeral right there!  Afterwards, the crowd watched the sun set once more with the late Heather Smythe before making the trek back down. 

That site on the top of Red Mountain remained a sacred part of local lore for years.  Many would pass one version of the story or another from one generation to the next.  Those who knew Heather and her widowed fiancé would regularly gaze at Red Mountain from below, remembering her pain, her dreams, and the love the two shared.

Elements would take their toll on that poorly dug grave.  And during that fateful storm some 85 years later, the late Heather Smythe decided to resurface, and pay a visit to the town below!  But this time, reinterred in the town’s cemetery, where not only could she watch the sun set over her beloved Red Mountain, but enjoy the company of those who decided to stop by.

And for those drunks who witnessed her casket sail down the street … they would continue to meet regularly at the same local bar, until they came to an odd drunken decision, just a year after that dark stormy night.  They determined the city cemetery was NOT where she should remain, scoured the neighborhood for shovels, picks, and anything else with which they could dig, exhumed poor Ms Smythe and return it to the top of Red Mountain where she belonged!

Once her casket resurfaced a second time, the drunks proceeded to carry her back up main, make a left on Ruxton, and tried to reinter her in someone’s front yard, just 50 yards up Ruxton!  Chief Proctor wasn’t on shift that evening responded to the scene when he received the call, and could only laugh at what had taken place!  Who else would think of pulling a stunt like that?!  Leaving a mess to be cleaned, the destruction of two plots of land they didn’t own, and poor Miss Smythe had to be interred for a third time. 

If she only knew …..

Tell me a story

Storytelling has been an important part of the human psyche since the development of the spoken word.  It has helped pass important events from one generation to the next, help understand what foods are safe to eat, and help protect the community from danger, just to name a few.  Storytelling is the basis for everything from food collection and preparation, to medicine, to explaining seasons or the weather, clothing, shelters, transportation, and society in general.

It more recent times, storytelling has been used to support an idea in a fashion that is easy to both understand and remember.  Storytelling can be lighthearted or serious and is so ingrained into the human DNA that a well-presented story can change communities or even the world.

Everyone loves a good story.  Here, I encourage folks to do just that … tell a story.  If posted here, it should be positive, non-political, non-racist, or attacking a specific lifestyle, even if it’s something you may disagree with.  I will also ask to abstain preaching or proclaiming a specific religious faith, while tenets of various faiths may be referenced as part of the story, please do not evangelize, or be upset if someone makes such a reference. 

If something that may be considered “sensitive” is used, please ensure it is used as part of the story and may not be construed as imposing a belief system or preference on others.  These topics include, but are not limited to religion, politics, the LGBTQ community, reproductive rights, or gun control.  

Should something be posted where a reader believes it’s crossed a line, please let me know.  If there is a concern, the post will be removed.  This is a forum to tell a story, entertain, and be entertained.

Thank you for visiting, I look forward to hearing folks tell a story.